Ephesians 5:25-30 says, “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church.”
These are very powerful verses that strongly suggest the utmost devotion to one’s wife. Nothing (but God Himself) should be held in higher esteem than a wife. These verses compare a husband-wife relationship to that of Christ and the church. Jesus gave Himself up for the church, in death, that we could be blameless.
Giving one’s life for another is the ultimate sacrifice, the ultimate love, as Jesus showed us. This expresses God’s amazing love for us, and Ephesians 5 suggests that kind of love for a husband to his wife. It is a tremendous commitment.
Husbands have the most important, most difficult task in the relationship. They need to take the lead. They are held to the highest level of responsibility. If they can’t fulfill their duties towards the wife, loving her above all else (except God), she is unable to meet his needs.
The number one emotional need of women is to feel loved. If they feel as though they are truly loved, everything runs smoothly and they naturally meet the needs of their husband. When women begin to lose that security, things start falling apart. (When mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy.)
So what does God admonish men to do over and over in the Bible? He tells them to “Love your wife!”
How do men truly show love to their wives? They put the needs of their wives ahead of their own. They remain completely committed to their marriage and hold it in high esteem as Jesus did the church.