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No More Depression - What I Learned From Fasting

I’m getting off the path of marriage this week, but I feel compelled to share with you a recent experience that changed my life.I know some of you out there may be affected the same way.
I didn’t grow up in a church that talked about fasting, and so it’s been a new concept for me in the past eight years since first attending a church that practiced it.  I did the Lent thing as a child occasionally, but that usually meant giving up something I wasn’t going to miss anyway.  (I didn’t know the significance of Lent back then.) The church I now attend has been promoting a forty day fast. (Check out their website www.gwocag.net for Pastor Bob’s excellent “Forty Days With the Holy Spirit” daily devotional.)  After some discussion with other members, I jumped on the bandwagon and decided to give it a try.  In the past I’d fast for a day or two but never forty.  “My name is Sandee Lester and I am a sugarholic”.  I knew exactly what I needed to fast – desserts, chocolate, cookies and anything sat…

More on Conflict

James 4:1-3 - “What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you? You want something but don’t get it. You kill and covet, but you cannot have what you want. You quarrel and fight. You do not have, because you do not ask God. When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures.”

These verses in James tell it like it is. If you seem to be caught in a never-ending cycle of fighting with your spouse, you may want to take some time to study these verses. Instead of blaming your spouse for everything, why not look at what is going on in your own heart.

Are your problems that you continually struggle with traced to your own personal SELF-ish motives or desires? Do you feel entitled to something that may be unattainable or unreasonable or not part of God's will for your life? Do your desires become demands? Do you self-righteously judge others? Do you struggle to be free fr…

Communication: Conflict and the Influence of Self

God created us with free will, meaning we could make our own decisions and live life according to His way or our own way. Because of the fall of man, we have a bit of rebelliousness in all of us. We constantly struggle with SELF. SELF always wants it's own way, not God's way or a spouse's way.

Our selfish and sinful nature interferes with God’s plan for us. When we give into our SELF, we jeopardize relationships and cause disruptions in society. Our society has fallen to an immoral state of ‘no right or wrong’ because the trend has been to think about ones SELF. If it feels good, do it. We no longer are taught to put the needs of others ahead of our SELF.

We bring this worldly attitude into our marriage relationship. Conflict starts with the rising of that inner beast called SELF. When SELF feels threatened to not get it’s own way, ridiculed, or offended, it needs to strike in order to justify it's SELF. We are taught in the world to “Defend your SELF! Don’t let them …

Watch Your Mouth

Once we gain control of negative thoughts, our next step is controlling what we allow to come out of our mouth.
 Ephesians 4:29 tells us“Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.”
Some people find great difficulty in controlling what they say.  I call that not having a filter between your mind and your lips, and every thought, good or bad, slips out of your mouth.  I know I write frequently about controlling the tongue, but let’s face it; it is a HUGE part of a successful marriage.  Like the tiny rudder on a large ship, it controls the direction.  Our tongue controls the direction our marriage will lead us - in divorce court or to happily-ever-after.
In our marriage relationship, we should only speak positive words to our spouses and words that edify or lift them up.  In fact, the verse above from Ephesians is not only talking about married couples; it is tellin…