Stop the Cycle - More on Communicating
Okay. I think I’ve established the fact that communication efforts between men and women are complicated. Unfortunately, we aren’t told that we need to learn a foreign language when we enter into matrimony. Yes, we women speak very different English from our spouses. Half the battle, like most anything, is the realization of the problem. Once you grasp the differences and no longer allow them to drive you crazy, you can easily learn to communicate with your spouse. Your focus should be on your spouse’s needs, not your own. Allowing yourself to become annoyed at their words that conflict with your desires (unless they criticize you personally) is a selfish act. Putting your spouse’s needs ahead of your own is just a polite way of saying, “Stop being so selfish.” Selfishness will always cause severe friction in a marriage and usually leads a couple to divorce. I’ve seen some people tolerate a selfish spouse for many years, but it tak...