Expectations
I believe one reason we find ourselves in silly arguments that escalate into full blown fights is that we don’t voice our expectations with our spouse. I find that, occasionally, I will come to a conclusion about a situation, in my mind, and neglect to tell my husband, or even other people, what I’ve decided. I move on assuming everyone knows where I’m coming from. Of course, my husband should be able to second guess my actions (ha ha! That couldn’t be further from the truth!) ; we’ve been married for thirty-three years! Needless to say, things don’t get completed very efficiently when no one knows what you expect, and a situation like this easily turns into a fertile breeding ground for arguments. Recently, we were in a social situation and nearing the time to leave. I am such a people person that at a party, I want to talk to everyone. It seems that Rick thought we were leaving and got upset with me when I wasn’t right behind ...