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10 Things Men Can Do to Make Their Wives Happy

Mark Gungor (Laugh Your Way to a Better Marriage) talks about the difference in keeping score between men and women.  Just for getting out of bed in the morning to go to work, a man may believe he earns 100 brownie points.  Giving his wife a dozen roses should easily earn him 500 points and hold him over for a few months without any other attempts to make points. (So he thinks.) Points equal doing your job as a husband. The more points accumulated account for a happier wife – and more sex.
From a woman’s perspective, though, a dozen roses will earn him one point as would a single rose or even a new car.  Men can  make their wives the happiest by taking the time to figure out exactly what makes her feel the most intimate towards him.  (Sorry guys.  It’s probably not anything from Frederick’s of Hollywood.  That’s your idea of intimacy.) It’s usually the simple acts, not the fancy cars or vacations, that will make us feel the closest to our man. 
Since numbered lists of “to dos” seem ver…

Get Out of the Funk!

Okay, so I haven’t posted an article in a while.  I have been busy, though, combining my seven years of blog writing into a year-long devotional for married couples.  I am in the process of publishing it as an Ebook so please stay tuned for further details!
I also plan to take a different direction with my blog.  Since I’ve written almost everything I know about marriage, I want to start doing webinars/video blogs.  I will have a live webinar once a week (on marriage and women) which will be open to questions from you that we will discuss.  I will record those sessions and use them as a video blog.  Please keep your eyes open for those details coming soon!
I do have one more article that has been on my heart.  (There may be more down the road.)  I know I promised to not get too preachy about nutrition and what you eat, but I have to share this new revelation with you. (A not so wonderful revelation at that.)
I have discussed, numerous times, the effect that sugar has on my mind.  It depr…

Christmas Thoughts

‘Tis the season to be jolly’.   Hmmm.  The older I get, the less jolly I feel at Christmas time.  It seems the real reason for the season, the birth of Jesus, is slowly being pushed aside to make room for all the commercialism that now dominates this holiday.  I don’t like it.
There has also been a lot of skepticism over the past few years about the roots of the celebration of Christmas, and so I decided to investigate it myself.  It seems that Christmas, initially called the Saturnalia Festival, started as a pagan holiday.  Romans adopted it with hopes of turning people to Christianity.
From “Christmas, the Real Story”
          In the 4th century CE, Christianity imported the Saturnalia festival hoping to take the pagan masses in with it.  Christian leaders succeeded in converting to Christianity large numbers of pagans by promising them that they could continue to celebrate the Saturnalia as Christians.           The problem was that there was nothing intrinsically Christian about Satu…

Why Women Don't Say What They Mean

Below is a brief interaction between two married men concerning communication with their wives, taken from the book "Twelve Lies Women Tell Their Husbands" by Tim and Sheila Riter.
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"Hey man, you're late.  Anything wrong?" Sweat dripped off Alex after fifteen minutes on the treadmill.
"Dude, you wouldn't believe it. But then, you're married, so maybe you will." Don stepped onto the adjoining treadmill and started running.
"I got home from work today and grabbed my gym clothes like I do every Tuesday. Shontell seemed distant, like she'd had another bad day at work. Her boss has been putting a lot of pressure on her to finish that condominium project, and I'm kinda concerned. The baby's due date is still four months away, but I just don't want her to feel any unnecessary stress.
"So I go up to her, give her a hug, and ask if anything's wrong.' No, I'm fine, just fine.' So I told…

What Happened to Faith?

Faith seems to be a rare commodity in our country.  Is it any wonder, though, that we have lost faith when we look at the state of our society?
We’ve lost faith in a government that once governed “for the people, by the people.” It has become greedy for power and control – unconcerned for the needs of the people.
 We’ve lost faith in the values that once resonated strongly in the hearts of our country.  Now, there is no right or wrong.  It’s all about what works for “me.”
We’ve lost faith in a justice system that once ruled fairly and just but is now influenced by the power of money.
We’ve lost faith in a healthcare system that has over-inflated the cost of care while under-inflating the quality.
We’ve lost faith in a banking system that once looked out for its customers but now crushes their dreams for the almighty dollar.
We’ve lost faith in the security of jobs because it’s become too expensive for employers to higher full-time employees.
We’ve lost faith in our welfare system because too…

They Just Don't Get It - Part 2

I know I may come off pretty strongly with my thoughts about mothers staying at home with their children instead of working, but I speak as someone who’s struggled through it.  Looking back, I’m more than grateful I spent that time at home with my children.  They were very special years that I would never have recovered, especially once they started school.  It was well worth giving up all the “things” and “career” I thought I would miss out on.  The bottom line is that children develop faster and are emotionally healthier when they spend their first five years at home with their mother or father. We will have more years with our children as adults, so our job is to be there to prepare them for adulthood in the short time we have them as children.  For more information, go to: http://www.babycenter.com/0_staying-at-home-pros-and-cons_6025.bc
If we weren’t such a material-hungry society, it would be much easier for mothers to stay at home.  Besides, you’ll probably never hear anyone say…

They Just Don't Get It!

One of the most common problems I hear with couples, especially the wife, is that the husband doesn’t help enough around the house and with the children.  In these days where 90% of women work outside of the home, they still do most of the housework and the caring of the children.                                                                                                                                                    A friend of mine, who is a hairdresser, once told me of an elderly woman who came into her shop one day.In a leisurely conversation, the woman told her that she thought women were stupid.They worked hard for “women’s liberation”, only to gain one more thing to do.
My friend took offense to this statement until she started thinking about what the elderly woman meant.  What have we, as women, gained from being “liberated” besides a full-time job on top of taking care of children, a house and a husband?  My friend began to realize the truth of the elderly woman’s stat…