Every couple should set aside at least 15 - 30 minutes a day to converse with each other. It should be uninterrupted time together. You may have to wait until the children are in bed, but it is essential to allow time for your spouse. The more time you spend together, the stronger your relationship will become.
If you don’t spend time with your spouse now, you will feel like strangers when the kids leave. Many people divorce at that stage of life because they don’t know how to relate to each other any more.
Find activities you enjoy participating in together. Have a date night at least once a month (once a week is even better). Get a babysitter and go on a real date. The more activities you do together where you can have meaningful conversation, the better. Don't always talk about the kids and work, talk about the positive aspects of your relationship.
Turn the television off. Teach your children how to sit around and talk with one another. Have a sit down meal with your family at least three times a week (again, the more the better.) The dinner table is where the best family conversations get started. Don’t miss out on this wonderful opportunity with your children.
Husbands, involvement with your family is also high on the list of needs for your wife. Another golden opportunity for you to make points! (You always get points when fulfilling your wife’s needs. The more points you get, the more sex you get!)
Remember the importance of prayer with your spouse. Speaking with God, together, is a very intimate action, especially for women.
The bottom line is that our relationships are dependent on what we say to each other. Our words are the beginning that can lead to the end. We have to guard them carefully, use them wisely, and be sure we speak only love and edification to those we hold most dear.