Submission from the wife does not give the husband freedom to dictate and make all the rules. In a healthy marriage, couples will discuss everything, together. A wise man will value the suggestions and opinions of his Godly wife and not hesitate to use them.
I can count on my husband for sound advise and judgment. I know we will not make a move, regardless of who’s idea it was, unless it has been supported by God. Being submissive to a Godly husband means that you know God will be involved in any decision making.
Submissiveness does not mean the husband rules the wife with an iron fist, barking out orders that please his SELF. Husbands need to give up SELF and submit to God’s will in order for a wife to willingly follow his lead.
Someone once asked Rick, "I'm confused about being the leader of the house. How can I be the boss without being bossy?"
Jesus was a servant leader. He didn't "boss" people around. He led by example. He put the needs of others ahead of himself. That's the way a man should lead his household.
Matthew 20:28 says, “Just as the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve.”
The Godly husband is the one to make sure everyone has enough to eat. He gets up out of bed to check the unrecognizable noise in the middle of the night. He drops everyone off at the front door of the theatre when it’s raining, then parks the car and gets soaked as he runs back to the theatre to join his family. He takes care of his responsibilities around the house even when he doesn't feel like it. He serves his family while confidently leading the way.
I find there are many times when I’m more than happy to let my husband “take the wheel”, literally and figuratively. (I know he’ll always drive when I don’t feel like it.) I feel safe and secure with my husband. I know he will always take care of me. He would give his life for me.
In order for a woman to ‘submit’ to her husband, he needs to be obedient to God’s word in loving his wife. He needs to be living Ephesians 5:25-30. (see below). When loved and adored by a Godly husband, a woman will do anything for him; she will put him above her selfish needs. Submission will be a natural response.
Submission is a beautiful gift from a wife to a husband that God meant for good. We see how unsuccessful marriages are when both husband and wife want to be in charge. Women weren’t created to be the head of the household. They were made to be a different part of the body that is equally necessary for a successful marriage and family.
Ephesians 5:25-30. “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated his own body,. But he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church - for we are all members of his body.