I have mentioned SELF numerous times in this blog because it is the number one culprit that jeopardizes our relationship with God AND with our spouse. It prevents us from turning our lives over to God and from having the healthy marriage relationship God intended for us.
SELF gets in the way of everything we’ve discussed so far; communication, love and respect, intimacy and sex, and our priorities. It cannot exist in a healthy relationship.
While the world may tell us to embrace it, the Bible tells us to be free from it. It is in our nature to be selfish, so you have to make a conscious effort to not let SELF control your life. You must crucify it, die to it. Allow God to take the lead in your life.
Phil. 2:3-5 says, “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility, consider others better than yourselves. Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interest of others. Your attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus.”
Jesus showed love to everyone He met. He put them ahead of His SELF. Thief, beggar, king or gentile, He loved them all and wanted to serve them and meet their needs.
In our society today, the attitude is often, “what can I get out of this?” We want to receive, forgetting about the importance of giving. Until we’re ready to reach out to others and show them the love of Christ through us, we aren’t living the Godly life He intended for us.
I Corinthians. 10:24 says,“Nobody should seek his own good, but the good of others.”
We were sent to this world for other people, not careers or wealth. We are here to save souls and we miss many golden opportunities when we’re wrapped in our SELVES.
James 3:14-18 “If you harbor bitter envy and selfish ambition in your hearts, do not boast about it or deny the truth. Such “wisdom” does not come down from heaven but it is earthly, unspiritual, of the devil. For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice. But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere. Peacemakers who sow in peace raise a harvest of righteousness.”
If you have never given your SELF over to God, you have probably been dealing with some major struggles in your life and in your marriage. You may experience feelings of depression and a sense of hopelessness. God is the only way out. We can’t deal with life on this earth by our SELVES. We only make a mess of things. We need God first in our lives.