I found this email I received a couple months ago when cleaning out my inbox. It says a lot about the differences between men and women.
Tonight I thought he was acting weird. We had made plans to meet for dinner. I was shopping with my friends all day long, so I thought he was upset at the fact that I was a bit late, but he made no comment. Conversation wasn't flowing so I suggested that we go somewhere quiet so we could talk. He agreed but he kept quiet and absent.
I asked him what was wrong; he said nothing. I asked him if it was my fault that he was upset. He said it had nothing to do with me and not to worry. On the way home I told him that I loved him, he simply smiled and kept driving. I can't explain his behavior. I don't know why he didn't say I love you too. When we got home I felt as if I had lost him, as if he wanted nothing to do with me anymore. we just sat there and watched TV. He seemed distant and absent.
Finally, I decided to go to bed. About 10 minutes later he came to bed and to my surprise he responded to my caress and we made love, but I still felt that he was distracted and his thoughts were somewhere else.
He fell asleep - I cried. I don't know what to do. I'm almost sure that his thoughts are with someone else. My life is a disaster
I shot the worst round of golf in my life today. At least I got lucky.
This example of a day in the life of a paranoid woman not only shows the complexity of women, but also the simplicity of men. It also shows us a major problem many of us face in communication. We don’t know how to express ourselves very well. (More about this to come.)
Why do we make it so complicated to communicate with each other? First of all, most of us aren’t taught proper communication skills, and second, we are oblivious to the enormous impact communication has on everything we do. Our lives and our destiny all evolve from what comes out of our mouths.
Divorce starts with a thought in your head. Those thoughts are what turn into words that can quickly spiral into the destruction of a marriage. We have to become aware of our thoughts and wisely choose which ones to vocalize. That may be the most important lesson you can learn to improve your marriage. It’s not easy undoing years and years of training, but it is possible. “All things are possible with God.”
Stay tuned as I delve deeper into the complications of communication.